Sunday, 26 October 2014

Cyber Bullying

This is a little bit of a controversial topic, but as bloggers we put our life on the internet for all to see along with our all important contact details like email, and twitter. It's not unheard of that this can attract some unwanted attention from some individuals.
But it begs the question are there more crazy people these days, or does the ease of social media make it far more simple to emotionally attack people and try to stir up trouble? 

The reason I am asking this is because recently I was the victim of some malicious trouble making, so I decided to discuss this with you all and see what your thoughts are and if anyone else has ever dealt with something similar?



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A few weeks ago I received an email from an anonymous sender stating all sorts of ludicrous accusations about my boyfriend and our relationship. This person had clearly been somewhat stalking me on twitter and my blog, piecing together bits of information just so she could try and stir up trouble. My first thought when I received the email was that I have to accept this sort of thing will happen to me because I choose to write a blog about my life and that will probably at points attract unwanted attention. But now I have had time to think about it, it's quite sad that we have to accept that possibility, just because we share information on the internet.

Sometimes I am utterly shocked at the things people write in the comments on YouTube and other forms of social media. Some of the things people have said are so vindictive and just down right cruel and I wonder why they feel the need to do it? 

We all have our opinions, there will always be people in the world we just don't like for one reason or another. We may have a clash of personalities or a massive difference of opinion on something, but I don't think that gives the right to personally attack that person for it. We are all different, and that is something to be celebrated or else the world would be a very boring place. 

The kind of comments that I find the hardest to read and understand why someone would write such things, are the kind where people say something very hurtful about the way someone else looks. I just don't see the need for it, again it's a matter of opinion. There have been plenty of times I have looked at an outfit someone is wearing and thought "urgh" but that's because I personally don't like it and it's not to my taste, but I would never go and comment on that person's blog/twitter/instagram and say they looked horrible because I accept the fact that a) it's just mean and unnecessary, and b) other people will love the outfit because they have the same taste as the original person.

The other type of comment I hate to see are the ones spawned out of jealousy, the ones where people can't bear to see another human being do well or be successful. Again it's your prerogative to not like a person, maybe their demeanour annoys you, or you disagree with something they say, but it doesn't mean they don't have the right to be successful. They have probably worked very hard to get where they are, so what gives anyone the right to turn around and say they don't deserve it?

All in all I just feel that people need to be a little more mindful about what they say to one another on the internet, just because you are not saying it to someones face doesn't mean that it won't hurt them or what you are doing isn't wrong. Unfortunately sticks and stones will break your bones and words can hurt you; and in this day and age where people spend so much time online, cyber bulling is becoming a very real and huge problem especially amongst the younger age groups and it can and does cause a lot of damage. 

I think as bloggers we need to be able to set an example to others that it's not ok to do this to another human being no matter what you think of them. So joining in with sites and forums that were set up with the sole intention to bring people together to bitch about one another is disgusting behaviour and just so wrong! 

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Have you experienced anything I have mentioned in this post? How did you deal with it?



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