Monday, 24 November 2014

#Bundlemarathon | Turn back time

The difficult bit of taking part in the bundle marathon is the very ambiguous topics. Sometimes I really struggle to put together a post relating to the title, but I guess that's part of the challenge right?

So this week the topic is turn back time, this could be open to interpret in so many different ways and I wasn't sure which way I should take this. I guess I could have touched on fashion of the past, or old beauty trends or something, but recently I have been enjoying writing about a wider range of topics and I find it helps me express myself and work through issues in my life. I started blogging a long time ago because I was inspired by others but I struggled to find my niche, so I rebranded and started a fresh nearly a year ago now and my main aim was to write for me. I wanted blogging to help me free my thoughts and creativity and hopefully some day create a career out of it. Now I'm not sure if that will ever happen but it certainly helps me, because it gives me a place to write about whatever I want, because it's my space on the internet and no one can tell me I can't.

With that in mind, my interpretation of turn back time is as follows:

I haven't had the easiest life, I seem to attract bad luck and I have faced so many struggles in my time and sometimes find myself asking in amidst a flurry of tears "why me?" Why can't I just catch a break, it seems whenever I get myself back on my feet something else will come along to pull the rug out from beneath me and I tumble in slow motion to the floor once again.

So I ask myself, if I could turn back time what would I do? If I had the gift to be able to turn the clock back I'm not sure at what point in time I would go back to. My first thought would be to turn back to being 16 years old, when I met my first proper boyfriend. If I could go back to that point and have not talked to him and let myself get sucked into such a destructive and soul shattering relationship where would I be now? But on the other hand I think to myself, everything I went through with him has made me who I am today, for better or worse. What would I have been like if I had taken a different path? Because of him I have a story to tell, not a good story at all but a story all the same.

So maybe I would still let myself meet him and experience some of the bad, so I would be able to appreciate the good. I just wouldn't have stayed so long and wasted so much of my life with someone who's main aim was to degrade me and make me feel small, insignificant and undeserving of something better.

Has good come of me going through so much bad? Am I stronger for it, am I more able to cope with difficult situations, or will it in some way always haunt me and hold me back. Will I ever truly be able to put it all behind me and move forward completely unshackled. They say that the struggle a butterfly has to encounter in order to break through it's cocoon is essential. Without that struggle the butterfly would not be equipped to survive, so can the same be said for humans? Are the weakest of us the ones that have never known struggle or hardship, so if I was to take away all the bad that happened to me I would make myself less able to cope with life?

I suppose it depends on the type of struggle doesn't it? Some forms of abuse leave such emotional scars on people they never manage to overcome them, or does that say more about the person than the experience? Are some of us just able to overcome anything and others never manage to, is that the wonder of life.

I often question where I could have been now if I hadn't met him, I might have been married with kids living a totally different life. But on another hand I may have never met my current BF, I like to think that if it was our destiny to meet, our paths would have crossed some other way. But it's all questions isn't it, because none of us will ever know the answer. We don't have the power to turn back time and make changes to see which outcome we like best, it would be wonderful if we could wouldn't it?

So because we aren't able to go back in time, my advice would be to take time and think about your choices. Try and separate yourself from big decisions and ask, in years to come will I be happy with this choice? You won't always be able to answer that question, but I know damn well if I had asked myself that 9 years ago I would have done things differently and escaped years of abuse.

Sometimes pain is the easier option and making a change is far harder. Only you can change your destiny.

Good Luck

Sunday, 23 November 2014

Bloggers Brunch

Last Sunday myself and a few other bloggers met for Brunch at Ed's Diner. I have been arranging a monthly meet up for bloggers for the last two months because it nice to have a chance to chat to some like minded girls over some tasty food. We share tips and tricks, as well as talking about fashion, beauty and make-up and generally just having some girly gossip time.

Photo courtesy of April Todd

Here we all are doing our best cheesy grins, whilst April uses her much talked about selfie stick.


I went for the All American breakfast after much deliberation, I was so torn between this and french toast with berries and maple syrup. Next time it will be the french toast! I'd like to say a massive thanks to the fabulous staff at Ed's Diner in Lakeside who were wonderful hosts and made sure our coffee cups were topped up at all times, and remained patient even though we probably sent them away about 6 times whilst we all tried to decide what we wanted to eat in between gossipping.

Take a little look at the other ladies lovely blogs:

Monday, 17 November 2014

#bundlemarathon Beauty Secrets

 Week 4 of #bundlemarathon is about beauty secrets, I have to admit I'm struggling with this topic a little. I don't think I have any secrets, most of what I know is common knowledge amongst beauty lovers.

So here are a few things that I think are pretty important:

1) Don't think you're too young for anti ageing products, fine lines and wrinkles sneak up on you very quickly, especially the ones around your eyes. So even if you're in your early 20's, still get into the habit of using an eye cream and anti ageing moisturiser. Remember prevention is better than cure!

2) Don't bake yourself in the sun too much, yes we all know it's trendy to be tanned but do you really want to be one of those old women whose face looks like leather, hands are covered in age spots and their chest has more wrinkles than a piece of old crepe paper! You know the type of women, when you are on holiday they are the ones in their 50's and 60's laying out by the pool from AM to PM to get a tan. They have done that all their life and now look pretty haggered, is it really worth it?

3) Don't be too rough with your skin, be gentle when removing eye make-up as the skin is so thin and will stretch easily. Don't pull too hard when putting your eyeliner on, you don't want to help gravity by pulling your skin this way and that, it won't always snap back and you will be kicking yourself for not treating it more kindley.

4) Dabbing pure tea tree oil onto spots to kill bacteria and help reduce the swelling.

5) Don't sleep in your make-up, cliche I know. Everyone uses this one but it really is true that it's bad for your skin, on the odd occasion I do sleep in it I end up with a massive spot! Reason enough no?

What tips do you live by?

Thursday, 13 November 2014

Precious Time

This weekend gone one of my fabulous friends who unfortunately lives a long way away came down to stay. Sadly these days we only see each other about 5-6 times a year so when we do get a chance to catch up it means a lot.

She arrived Saturday evening and we very quickly opened a bottle of wine after getting inside from the rain. We had planned to go and watch some fireworks but the weather had other ideas and we agreed that neither of us wanted to stand on a muddy field in the rain for the evening so we settled down on the sofa and started catching up.

It's a shame about the rain spoiling our plans but we made the most of the evening regardless and headed down to Chiquitos for some dinner and a cocktail, and I got the chance to indulge in my new favourite thing, a halloumi crunch burger. If you head to the Mexican chain I really recommend it, you get a huge chunk of halloumi, they don't scrimp at all and they fill the bun with loads of other tasty things like tortilla chips for crunch and salsa for some fresh tang! We even got to play with the sombrero's and stick on moustache's!

The next morning after a cup of coffee we hit Frankie and Bennys for some breakfast, this is one of my favourite spots to spend a Sunday morning. Not only does it only take us a few minutes to walk to which is handy but you get bottomless coffee so you can really sit down and leisurely enjoy your morning. The last couple of trips I have enjoyed their breakfast pizza which is amazing. Sausage, cheese, bacon and topped off with an egg what more could you ask for?

I even topped off my meal with a festive treat off their Christmas menu, a yummy black forest hot chocolate and if you feel like being a little naughty, this is also available with a shot of baileys!

As I was too busy enjoying myself I didn't take any good quality pics, so here is a little collage of my phone pictures.

night out, chiquito,
 Yes I gave my nose a moustache, why not?

Monday, 10 November 2014

#Bundlemarathon Dream Wardrobe

This weeks #bundlemarathon post is all about your dream wardrobe. If I was a rich girl, I would fill a dressing room with beautiful and shiny things, so when I was feeling down I could go and sit in there and play with all the fabulous clothes, shoes and jewels. So here is a sneak peak of some of the things that would be in my dream wardrobe.

A seriously expensive piece of denim.
Diamond earrings
Silk top
Hot Heels

One pair of heels is never enough though, so I would have these ones too!

Jimmy Choo heels
Jimmy Choo shoes
 I am very much a magpie and am attracted to pretty things, like most girls I would love to have the financial freedom to buy what I wanted. Alas that is not the case so until then, I can dream can't I?

If anyone wants to give me a job shopping for a living then feel free to sign me up!

Sunday, 9 November 2014

The festive advert battle

Something a little different today, I have always loved Christmas and really enjoy the build up to the big day. In recent years some of the big players in the retail business have started to release some very long and expensive Christmas adverts and it has sparked a little bit of competition amongst them as to whose will be the best.

A couple of days ago the Christmas John Lewis advert premiered, it seems a little strange to think that on a yearly basis now there is an advert premier for one of the leading department stores, but indeed there is, and it builds up a little anticipation as radio stations give out the time and channel of the airing of the new advert and then in the days that follow you will inevitably ask or be asked if you have seen it.

Well I have seen this years John Lewis advert and I'm sorry to say I don't like it as much as last years. I happen to think there is something a little creepy about the penguin, but that's just my opinion.

I also saw the Christmas Marks and Spencer advert which is rather sweet as it features two mischevious fairies. The remaining big players adverts that I will await are Debenhams and TK Maxx. They spend a huge amount on these and a lot of thought goes into making them something we all like to talk about and are becoming as much of a tradition as the benchmark Coca Cola adverts, after all everyone "the holidays are coming!"

John Lewis 2014  #montythepenguin

Marks and Spencer 2014 #followthefairies

Still my favourite, the 2013 John Lewis ad. So adorable and makes me teary every time


Which one is your favourite?

Friday, 7 November 2014

It's Time to Pamper | Collab with Laura Loves Beauty

Admittedly I hardly ever pamper myself so when my blogging friend from a-far Laura suggested we do a collaboration on this topic I went a little silent as my mind raced trying to think of the last time I even did a pamper session.....

Awkward, what would I write about?

Then last week suddenly as if the universe was giving me a gentle nudge in the right direction, I had the overwhelming desire to run a bath and just relax. I set about preparing the ultimate relaxing moment by lighting candles, and deciding which products I was going to use.

relaxing bath time

I turned the taps on the bath to start the steady stream of steamy hot water and squidged in some bubble bath, then disappeared off to the kitchen to make a hot chocolate. Once the bath water was nearly ready I crumbled in a Lush french kiss bubble bar to help me unwind.

Lush french kiss bubble bar
peaches and clean cleanser

I used my soap and glory peaches and clean cleanser to wash my face, then smothered "scrub your nose in it" mask all over my skin and hopped in the tub pressing play on my laptop and lay back in amongst the bubbles to watch "Rise of the Guardians". I slipped under the water to soak my hair and lathered up with Herbal Essences Bee Strong shampoo which smells like apricot jam. I then smothered my hair with an argan oil hair mask that I picked up from Tesco for the bargain price of £1!

argan oil hair mask

Now all I had to do was relax and watch the rest of the movie. Every time I do something like this is makes me think I should do it more often, I don't really know why I don't. It was lovely to just lie back in the soothing warm water and drink a hot chocolate, my boyfriend even poked his head in and was a little jealous, after all men can't get away with doing this really can they? It destroys their man points if anyone finds out! ;)

Don't forget to head over and check out Laura's blog to see how she pampers herself. She's fabulous!

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